this entry is not half of a conversation
Leonidas was right about me needing decompression, but i don't feel entirely off the mark with my thereotical structure (maybe just more its content) and a horribly boring conversation which just sullied my mood deeply makes me think about conversation itself.
while you will buy a cd if you don't like one song on it, you will not want to listen to that song and, potentially, be upset with having to change the song every time it comes on (yes i know iPods have outdated this metaphor a bit, but work with me).
Conversations are similar, but much more unendurable because of the social ramifications of rejecting the conversation (no one will hate you for changing the song--at least not usually)
the bad conversation is the anti-conversation. while the bad conversation might be acceptable to some degree, the power it as, much like the tragic play or the beautiful piece of music, arises from its duration. it moves through time, just like music, just like theater, just like life.
heck, it is life. and the conversation, good or bad necessarily evokes your energies to socialize. this is because you have investment into your social persona. Most people don't like to be considered any negative adjectives most would rather be considered the good ones--even if the opinion of the person doesn't matter too much to you, the potential social benefits of not being considered ____(insert negative adjective) are apparent.
investing into a conversation is an energy draining event, something to feel good about (like a 30 minute jog) or bad about (like 4 hours of watching tv or "reading" the facebook).
the good conversation can only happen when you are talking with someone else who can and is willing to have the good conversation with you. the more complex your idea of conversation becomes, the more nuances apply, the more specific the good conversation becomes to you, the fewer people there are with whom your idea of the good conversation aligns (that is, if your definition is aligning with mine).
there is often a propensity, when in conversation to initially compromise all of the qualities of a converation you want--this is benefit of the doubt. it is valuable, but also chancy. one of the many horribly important skills a person can develop is judging when in the conversation they can confidently (and correctly) say that it is 'going nowhere.'
Leonidas was right about me needing decompression, but i don't feel entirely off the mark with my thereotical structure (maybe just more its content) and a horribly boring conversation which just sullied my mood deeply makes me think about conversation itself.
while you will buy a cd if you don't like one song on it, you will not want to listen to that song and, potentially, be upset with having to change the song every time it comes on (yes i know iPods have outdated this metaphor a bit, but work with me).
Conversations are similar, but much more unendurable because of the social ramifications of rejecting the conversation (no one will hate you for changing the song--at least not usually)
the bad conversation is the anti-conversation. while the bad conversation might be acceptable to some degree, the power it as, much like the tragic play or the beautiful piece of music, arises from its duration. it moves through time, just like music, just like theater, just like life.
heck, it is life. and the conversation, good or bad necessarily evokes your energies to socialize. this is because you have investment into your social persona. Most people don't like to be considered any negative adjectives most would rather be considered the good ones--even if the opinion of the person doesn't matter too much to you, the potential social benefits of not being considered ____(insert negative adjective) are apparent.
investing into a conversation is an energy draining event, something to feel good about (like a 30 minute jog) or bad about (like 4 hours of watching tv or "reading" the facebook).
the good conversation can only happen when you are talking with someone else who can and is willing to have the good conversation with you. the more complex your idea of conversation becomes, the more nuances apply, the more specific the good conversation becomes to you, the fewer people there are with whom your idea of the good conversation aligns (that is, if your definition is aligning with mine).
there is often a propensity, when in conversation to initially compromise all of the qualities of a converation you want--this is benefit of the doubt. it is valuable, but also chancy. one of the many horribly important skills a person can develop is judging when in the conversation they can confidently (and correctly) say that it is 'going nowhere.'
posted by SHIMO at 1:18 AM
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